Dating different social classes

We grew up watching classics like Cinderella, Coming to America, Pretty Woman, Nollywood’s Violated and a couple of other movies where love conquered the social class divide.

Fast forward to 2017, the Internet rules; anyone can meet anyone, and nobody kicks up a fuss about cross-class relationships or marriages anymore. We no longer factor it in when considering the root of our relationship problems, and we look to psychology or gender norms instead when trying to figure out why our partner is being an ass.

According to her, while cross-class pairings or relationships seemed egalitarian, it was complicated and required a lot of work.

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Believe it or not though, social class or shall we say socio-economic differences, still pose a very difficult challenge in relationships today.

Anyone who has dated someone outside their social class can affirm that there are strange tensions and inevitable speed bumps that come with these kinds of relationships. For instance, your boyfriend could be from a high-class, wealthy family while you come from a working-class family with less money.

This would go on to stir feelings of insecurity, resentment, usually in the partner on the “lower” side of this difference.

And as a result, there will be a lot of negative pressure, tension, conflict as well as a sort of imbalance in the relationship, making it difficult for the couple to last long or even survive.

Bisi went on to share some of her experiences in marriage which all seemed a little incredible, and in between laughs, it dawned on me that I’d never dated anyone outside of my socioeconomic strata, which I’d describe as middle class.

I have never been with any one of the glitterati nor have I been with a blue collar.

She had shared her experience to find out if her declining a second date with the guy and refusing to speak to him again afterward portrayed her as being a snob.

Another friend who was out with us, *Bisi, jumped in and assured her that she made the right call nipping it all in the bud – she was better off with someone in her class.

Of course, financial equality does not mean cultural equality, so you wonder why he attaches too much importance to simple things like good food or designer labels.

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